Creating space - the power of choice

It’s that time of year again.  The start of a new year makes us feel the push to take stock, to revaluate our lives and set a list of goals for the year ahead.  We may want to set many goals in many different areas of our lives, health, career, relationships etc, adding on all the achievements we wish to accomplish this year, but in order to add on, we also need to take away.  We need to looking at what it is that we need to let go of, in order to create space to make these new additions? 

Some good questions to ask yourself are:

Where have you been giving your energy for little return that you can reclaim it?  

What are you ruminating on that really isn’t that helpful?

What are you resisting in your life? 

What are you saying to yourself about yourself? 

Who or what are you blaming for your current circumstances?

Are you giving your energy to relationships that don’t give back?

Are you spending time on endeavours that don’t really serve you?

Do you spend time getting angry or upset over things that you can’t change?

How much of your time and energy is being controlled by others or controlled by external events?

What are the fears that you need to let go of that are blocking you from moving forward and achieving what you would like?

When we are unaware of our blind spots we can’t do anything about them, but once we have insight, we can make changes. 

This year what are the two big things you could change that would really impact your life?  What daily choices could you make to support these goals?

Each choice you make determines the quality of your life, and even the smallest of choices contribute to where you are today.   

Tony Robbins talks about the 3 steps to making decisions:

1.     Decide

2.     Commit – immediately take an action that will commit you to making the change eg: join that running club, send off the application letter, post your blog.  Do it before you start overthinking it, second guessing yourself, worrying what others will think or how you will be perceived.

3.     Resolve – create a state of certainty.  Change your language, talk about yourself as having already achieved the goal.  Envision what it/you will look like in one years time and feel the emotions you will feel when you have achieved the goal.    

Self esteem is built by yourself for yourself.  Don’t waste another year feeling like you are not ready, not worthy, that the timing is not right or that things, or you, need to be perfect before you start. 

Start today, one choice at a time, and have trust in yourself. You can do it!!